Jan 22 2009
I’m Fed Up;-(
What does sacrifice mean to you? How selfless are you when it comes to family and friends? Sacrifices are the favors or things we do for somebody special to us may it be friends or family. Selflessness means forgetting about oneself and giving up things in favor of someone. They sound synonymous to me but what if people won’t appreciate the sacrifices you have made for them? How would you react?
Have you ever tried feeling bad about yourself because you want to help others but you have nothing to give at all? My family and friends looks up on me for help most of the time to help them. It makes me feel bitter about myself when I want to help but I don’t have anything. I work once to twice a week and basically I am more of a mom than an employee. The money my husband brings home is not even enough for our home mortgage, car loan, food and other neccesary things for our family. My younger sister has been bugging me to help her with her payments for her motorcycle. I can’t really help her with it because I have a lot of obligations and aside from that I am regularly helping my mom back home every month for food and her medicine.My sister who has been bugging me has a son who I am basically raising too since he is living with my mom but she don’t seem consider all of the things. I am doing my best for them but I feel abused. It seemed like nothing really is enough for them because instead of being grateful for the sacrifices for our family they are discontented and always in need too. I have done my part and they don’t even need to exert effort to help my mom. It breaks my heart to not be able to find means to what they are asking but I am not sure if they ever know that I have kids and a family here with me also. I am being too self-centered? My mother who is 72 years old of age, jobless and sick is my priority when it comes to helping. Aside from that I have my own children to raise. What do you think should I do? I am tired and I really need your suggestions. Honestly? I’m fed up with this situation. Feel free to tell me what to do. Anyway, thanks guys.
I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I don’t think you are being self-centered. If anything, they are being self-centered. You try to help them and it’s never enough. You could always remind them that you have your own family to take care of so you don’t have money/time for them. You don’t have to be nasty about it. If they can’t understand that, then it’s their problem. You should be able to put yourself first for a change.
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Thanks mily, I really appreciate your word of advise.;-)
You’re welcome.